Guinée : Ces femmes brisées par les mariages conclus avec des hommes de l’étranger
In Guinea, many marriages are sealed between women who have remained in the country and men who have settled in the West. Behind the image of social success associated with these unions , these women, broken by marriages with men from abroad , often hide painful realities. Between loneliness, lack of intimacy, family pressures and disillusionment, several women today speak of what they call a "consensual prison."
“I just freed myself from this prison that everyone considered a marriage.”
DS, a teacher, says she lived in a marriage arranged by her parents for twelve years. On the day of the ceremony, her husband, who was living abroad, was represented by his brother. "He told me he didn't have the papers yet. I accepted, thinking he would soon return. But it took five years for him to come, and then only for two months," she says.
Deprived of motherhood and marital complicity, DS says she suffered interference from her in-laws and mistrust from her husband, who had ultimately moved on. "I was neither with him nor a mother, and he already had another woman. I ended up leaving."
"This man took all my youth away from me."
Iba, now remarried and a mother of three, still remembers her years of suffering. "We only had one child. He would last three years before returning for a few months. My in-laws called me infertile, forgetting that their son was never there," she says.
She also reveals the intimate pressure she experienced from a distance: "He asked me for very personal photos. I did it out of fear, even though I was worried they would end up in the wrong hands." Eventually, she ended the toxic relationship to rebuild her life.
Unions that last despite the distance
Not all stories are marked by pain. Kadi, a hairdresser married for a year, says her relationship is "peaceful": "My husband doesn't pay attention to rumors; he's never criticized me. We argue sometimes, but never for long."
Hawa, a trader, accepted her husband's condition from the start: to stay with her mother in Guinea, while he lives in France with another wife. "It hurts me to be away from him, but we have children and he respects his commitment to come every year-end. I'm going along with it."
Between sacrifices and disillusionment
These testimonies show that behind long-distance marriages lie contrasting destinies: some break up in pain, others endure on the basis of compromise. But all of the women interviewed share the same aspiration: to live with their husbands and regain marital intimacy, often sacrificed on the altar of migration.
Commentaires (10)
Mais je rentre chaque annne et fais 4 mois.
L emigration ns prive de bcoup de choses bdeysaan
Q Allah ns accompagne amin!
Je préfère rester célibataire. On a vécu avec des femmes dont le mari est parti à l’étranger.
Elle sont malheureuses à un point, c’est terrible, Et cruel de laisser sa femme des années, aucun homme n accepterait cette situation, ce sacrifice… aucun.
Moi non plus!
En Occident, les hommes ont peur de parler aux femmes dans les rues à cause du harcèlement sexuel qui est devenu une arme pour les femmes.
Mais en Afrique, si l'homme a les moyens ce sont les femmes qui te font la cour.
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